Comments on: Swinging – The Games Your Neighbours Play http://themorningflight.com/reviews/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/ "Though I take the wings of the morning..." Psalm 139:9 Sat, 07 Jan 2012 00:13:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2 By: graham http://themorningflight.com/reviews/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-309 graham Fri, 14 Nov 2008 21:29:56 +0000 http://themorningflight.com/index.php/2008/11/14/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-309 I agree with you Tim that the "joint decision" thing is unclear. I included it as I think in the research it still shows that only in a minority of cases was in initiated by the woman. To me it is the matter of broken trust and a lifestyle of deception that I believe would be so corrosive to a marriage. I agree with you Tim that the “joint decision” thing is unclear. I included it as I think in the research it still shows that only in a minority of cases was in initiated by the woman.

To me it is the matter of broken trust and a lifestyle of deception that I believe would be so corrosive to a marriage.

]]> By: Timothy Barton http://themorningflight.com/reviews/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-308 Timothy Barton Fri, 14 Nov 2008 17:49:28 +0000 http://themorningflight.com/index.php/2008/11/14/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-308 "In 68% of the cases in the Henshel study it was the husband who made the original suggestion to swing. Followed by 20% “joint decision”." So what are we measuring here? Who made the original suggestion or who made the decision? Aren't these two different things? Graham, of all the holidays you've been on over the years, I suspect many were "joint decisions", but I doubt that any were joint suggestions. I mean, have you ever been sat having dinner with your wife, and simultaneously you have both said, "Let's go on holiday to X"? You can reach a joint decision, but there's always one person who makes the initial suggestion. Of this 20% of "joint decisions", I wonder how many were decisions made by both, but suggested by the man. Once the wedding vows have been broken, how can you trust anything else your spouse says or promises again? “In 68% of the cases in the Henshel study it was the husband who made the original suggestion to swing. Followed by 20% “joint decision”.”

So what are we measuring here? Who made the original suggestion or who made the decision? Aren’t these two different things? Graham, of all the holidays you’ve been on over the years, I suspect many were “joint decisions”, but I doubt that any were joint suggestions. I mean, have you ever been sat having dinner with your wife, and simultaneously you have both said, “Let’s go on holiday to X”?

You can reach a joint decision, but there’s always one person who makes the initial suggestion. Of this 20% of “joint decisions”, I wonder how many were decisions made by both, but suggested by the man.

Once the wedding vows have been broken, how can you trust anything else your spouse says or promises again?

]]> By: graham http://themorningflight.com/reviews/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-307 graham Fri, 14 Nov 2008 16:38:01 +0000 http://themorningflight.com/index.php/2008/11/14/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-307 A strong combination indeed. Having looked at the post again I notice, to my horror, that I appear to have lost a line I thought still there. So here it is: Thanks to John & Matt for looking up info for me! A strong combination indeed. Having looked at the post again I notice, to my horror, that I appear to have lost a line I thought still there. So here it is: Thanks to John & Matt for looking up info for me!

]]> By: John http://themorningflight.com/reviews/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-306 John Fri, 14 Nov 2008 10:57:29 +0000 http://themorningflight.com/index.php/2008/11/14/swinging-the-games-your-neighbours-play/#comment-306 Couldn't have said it better myself. The empirical research/biblical perspective is a strong combination indeed. Couldn’t have said it better myself. The empirical research/biblical perspective is a strong combination indeed.

]]>